Don’t let the title fool you. I certainly don’t have it all figured out. But I’ve learned a few things over the past 54 years – and a huge amount of that over the past 4 to 5. here is a small sample:
Adulting is not always fun
You are almost always stronger than you think you are
As an adult, you can eat Popsicles and ice cream any time of day or night
Being funny is easy, but being kind is best
Sometimes the relationship is more important than being right
God meant it when he said “be still”, he created the universe without your input so he doesn’t need your help with the day-to-day stuff
Just because you do bad things occasionally doesn’t make you a bad person
Never say never
Try new things. Who would’ve thought crab legs would become my favorite food? (I always said I didn’t like them because I didn’t want to try them – LOL!)
The advice in number nine also goes for relationships, experiences, and hobbies.
When it comes to a partner, don’t keep choosing the same characteristics over and over. If it didn’t work the first 300 times – chances are it won’t work this time.
Be open to good people.
Be kind to yourself unless you’re an ass, and then straighten up
Find a partner who loves and adores you, and encourages you become the best you possible. Feel the same about said partner.
We all have baggage, but remember only one carry-on per person. Don’t bring all that baggage with you to the next relationship.
Speaking of the last relationship, figure out why it didn’t work, what your role was – and fix it. Don’t keep repeating the past.
Be adventurous and spontaneous
All relationships take work! Especially romantic ones. Do the work – always do the work!
Remember where you came from and honor those who helped you get where you are.
I’m sure there’s a lot more, and a lot more to learn. The good news is I’m trying every day to be better than the day before. I certainly haven’t gotten to this point alone – there are lots of special people in my life, and one amazing man that I’ll talk about more later, when the time is right.
So here’s the deal, no matter how bad things are – someone, somewhere has it harder. So let yourself wallow for a short time and then get sick of yourself, get off your ass and change things.
We were all born to be fighters and survivors!